“I hear you”

“I hear you”⁠⁣
“I hear just how painful this is”⁠⁣
“I hear how unfair this feels to you”⁠⁣
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No matter what your own views about the situation, all that is necessary when faced with someone who has miscarried or lost a baby later in pregnancy (or going through any tough time for that matter) is to hear the other person. ⁣
Hear their experience. ⁣
Hear how they are feeling.⁣
Hear their pain. ⁠⁣
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And if you have the urge to jump in and minimise the feelings the other person has with comments such as ‘it’s just one of those things’, ‘at least…’ or ‘so and so went through the same thing’ – please don’t 🙏⁣
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Instead, acknowledge what the other person has said. ⁣
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Let them know that they have been heard. ⁣
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Show them that their pain has been witnessed, without judgement, without comparison, without minimising it. ⁣
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It has been heard because it is real and valid ❤⁣
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Together lets change the narrative around baby loss 🙏